It’s 3:36 AM & I just tucked Marit into her bassinet at the foot of the bed. Magnus has his feet in my back & Abe is sleeping (a little twitchy but at least he hasn’t sleep boxed me). I know in a few minutes Abe will sleepily turn over to scoop Magnus closer.  Seeing that act of protection, even in sleep, makes my heart swell every time. 

While I have been awake nursing & changing (and nursing & changing) Marit we had our alone time.  The moments we have just mommy & baby are rare & generally in the wee hours when I blearily fumble to feed her.  Tonight though I was awake & got the precious gift of just watching Marit. 

She lay there, tucked into the crook of my right arm, snuggled tight against me & her eyes opened wide.  The faint light from my phone (I lurv the flashlight app.  So handy for the 3 am feeding.) allowing me to watch as she looked at me.

At first she glanced at my face & her look quickly slid away as if the shadows held better things to contemplate.  I whispered to her & her gaze returned to me—more interest this time, wary & wide eyed. Again she looked around into the dark world & my whispers drew her back to me.

I turned Marit so she was facing me, head cradled in my hands, feet resting against the vertical line that was her door to this world.  I kept up the whispered words.  “Such a beautiful girl”,  “Momma loves her Little Bit”,  “So sweet, precious baby”,  “Marit, I love you”.  Her eyes widened and she looked straight into my eyes.  A slow blink from her as she studied me, looking into the deepest part of my soul. And then  she sighed, deep contentment settled on her.

It was the most perfect moment.  Seeing, feeling the love she has for me.  No judgment about anything; just peace & love.

As tears formed I tucked Marit back into the crook of my right arm so she could eat.  She nestled in & went right to work.  (Marit doesn’t mess around when it comes to mealtime.  The girl is all business about her milk.) As she got closer to sleep her tugging on me slowed until I felt her head drop all the way back. 

I pray she has sweet dreams.  I pray that the feeling of peace & love we passed between us endures her teenage years.  I pray that some day I will get to witness her experience the wonder of having her own little girl & tbeir moment just before 3:36 am.

I was so looking forward to those last five weeks of having my little boy as my baby.  The mornings snuggled in bed, the days playing on the floor & napping in the afternoon.  There aren’t words for how much I love Magnus…he is my heart & my miracle child.  Above all I hope he knows that while Marit is loved and adored it doesn’t take one ounce of love from him.  In fact there’s more than enough love for both of them.

It’s been a tough adjustment at times for me to see Magnus moving around the house, independent & wanting to do his own thing.  He took his first steps in my hospital room.  I was so glad I got to see it!  He hasn’t done any walking since so he isn’t too grown up yet.

I can tell he will be a good big brother.  He loves to get diapers for me when Marit needs to be changed.  He also enjoys giving Marit her pacifier when she cries.  Of course he likes taking it back just as much so it doesn’t always comfort her.  It’s cute to see him watch Marit.  Magnus gets a big smile on his face when he hears Marit coo & he hurries to look at her; sometimes he pats (not as gently as I’d like) her head.

Of course Magnus still loves to be noticed & show off for anybody who takes the time to notice him.  If a passerby should mention what a big boy he is & how he has such a cute little sister his grin is ear to ear.  I’m so proud of my little guy…he makes me smile & I love every moment.

Being pregnant this time was completely different from Magnus.  I didn’t suffer from the near constant morning sickness, my blood pressure  stayed well within acceptable range (in fact I had some of the best & lowest blood pressure readings during this pregnancy), I didn’t gain any weight & other than being tired I felt great.

We decided that this time we would find out the sex of the baby at our 20 week ultrasound.  To our delight we were told that a baby girl was on the way, due September 30th.  Since I’d had a c-section with Magnus & I hadn’t yet made the 2 year mark to try for vbac (vaginal birth after caesarean) this would also be a c-section delivery & I scheduled the birth for September 23.  Everything was well on track going into the last week of August.

Looking at the number on the scale I was dismayed to discover I had gained 10 pounds in the last 2 weeks.  I brushed it off though because I was pregnant & moving into my last month…some weight gain is to be expected.  Then the nurse took my blood pressure & it was 139/90…not a good sign but again I had been rushing around so elevated blood pressure is to be expected.  My OB came in & we talked about how I was feeling, whether the baby was moving etc.

After my high blood pressure reading & hearing that Marit wasn’t doing a lot of active moving, Dr Scott decided to put me on the non-stress test.  That means sitting very still for at least a half hour with monitors strapped to your belly.  Magnus was being pretty cooperative so I relaxed as best I could & waited to see what the results would be.  After about 45 minutes the nurse came in & said that since there just wasn’t enough movement I was being sent down to maternal-fetal medicine for a BPP (biophysical profile) ultrasound.  I called Abe & had him meet me at the hospital complex.  The ultrasound took a long time because they were looking for practice breathing & other signs that Marit was okay.

We were told that the amniotic fluid was quite low & therefore I was to go to the labor & delivery area of the Women’s Center & check in.  I signed a bunch of paperwork, got into a hospital gown & a delivery bed.  Out the window went our anniversary plans & our trip to Duluth…I was nervous, scared & crying.  Dr Scott informed me that I was a guest for at least the night & that I was confined to a clear liquid diet.  I was really upset. Partly because our plans were changed but mostly because I was worried about Marit, how Magnus would deal with being away from me for the first time & how Abe was going to juggle Magnus at home & me in the hospital.

On Thursday morning I was taken over to the ultrasound room to see if the high volume of IV fluid I was given overnight had pumped up the amniotic fluid level.  Looking at that ultrasound, hearing Marit’s heartbeat I was on edge.  It was nerve wracking to wait for Dr Heddleston to come in & talk to me about what our options were.  When he walked in he barely glanced at the monitor & then told me very calmly yet firmly that I was having a baby that day.  The amniotic fluid was only 2cm in the largest pocket…that means I had almost no fluid left for Marit.

There aren’t words to describe how scared I was hearing that news.  I plastered a smile on my face & nodded as I heard the news that my precious baby girl was arriving 5 weeks early & there was no way of knowing what would happen once she was delivered.  Dr Heddleston left & I was led back to my room.  I was bawling my eyes out & trying to call Abe to tell him that he was going to have to leave work because I needed him at the hospital.

A couple hours later I was wheeled into the OR & the prep for the spinal injection started while the nurses counted out all the instruments that the doctors would need.  I breathed as slowly as I could & tried to block out the rising nervousness as the minute hand crept closer to noon.  Then the doctors were in there, the blue shield went up & Abe was holding my left hand.

Marit Abelin Eileen arrived via c-section at 12:13 pm September 1, 2011.  She was 4lbs 5 oz & 18 1/2” long.  Hearing her cry for the first time is one of the most beautiful sounds I’ve ever heard.  Knowing she was out & her lungs were strong enough to announce her arrival was reassuring.  We were allowed on quick photo with our girl before she was whisked out of the room in an incubator & on her way to NICU.  The rest of the surgery passed in a blur & I was soon back in my room recovering & waiting to be sent upstairs to the maternal unit.

I don’t remember many of the details between recovery & the first time I held Marit.  Her teeny little body snuggled into mine & I felt peace swell inside me.  She seemed to be searching for food so I cradled her to my left side & encouraged her to nurse.  Again she was completely different than Magnus.  Rather than having to work at it Marit readily latched on & nursed with no problem.  We snuggled in the bed & bonded while life flowed on around us.  We were visited by many family members who were ecstatic to welcome a new person into our clan.

I’m beyond thankful that our little girl, our miracle surprise, spent less time in NICU than I did in recovery after the surgery.  She was allowed to come home when I was & has been steadily gaining weight ever since.  Marit is still teeny, no bigger than a minute, but I know that with time she’ll grow & be as strong, healthy & fun as her big brother.